Speaking quite literally, of course, I’m about to talk about staying focused on one thing. Whether that be a goal, a subject, or a general direction in life, though most of my references are going to be about what I’ve experienced in recent times. Welcome to Life Imitates Wrestling.
A person I’ll identify as “the Duke” often engages people in “the company” in conversation, and quite often (when he realizes he’s not getting the desired result) attempts to derail the conversation by including the happenings of other “companies” (including the activities of Tom, Dick, and Harry… generically referred to because the names really don’t matter). The Duke often gets away with this because no one stands up to the Duke to keep the conversation on track.
Enter the three individuals that will now play an intricate part in the tale I shall tell. “The Radmiral” Seaman Beaumont (because he sails the Seven Seas of awesome), Captain Gabbers, and the Whip.
Recently, a tag team match between Captain Gabbers and the Whip against the Duke and a masked special guest, Mr. X resulted in the Whip getting tossed around a bit more than he wanted but managed to come out without losing a step. Captain Gabbers joined in the fun with the Duke and went all around the ring, regardless of what the match initially started about, was done so that the focus was no longer on the original topic. Basically, the Duke and Mr. X escaped without a loss by diverting the attention of almost everyone.
That’s where the Whip took notice, plotted out a counterattack, and started focusing on the grand prize: the World Tag Team Championships. Now, unfortunately, Captain Gabbers is nearly as bad as the Duke when it comes to staying focused, so the Whip’s tag team partner really needs to be the Radmiral.
Here’s the catch: the Radmiral is solidly a singles wrestler and isn’t looking for tag team gold… he wants a much bigger prize, though he knows that sometimes you need to get along with others in order to attain those goals.
The Duke and the Radmiral have worked together in the past but recently those goals have not been in sync. The Radmiral really wants singles gold and the Duke claims to support that goal but has done almost everything possible for the company to keep the Radmiral from the gold. While the Duke is a nuisance, the real problem that the Radmiral knows is there (the diversion tactic) has already had some research done to stop.
What the hell are you talking about, DJ? Keep reading.
Captain Gabbers has tried to use the tactics of the Duke on the Radmiral and the Radmiral has slapped down those attempts, keeping Gabbers focused. This has allied Gabbers closer to the Whip, giving the duo a chance to actually take a shot at the World Tag Team Championships. This brings us to the meat of the topic… I’ll also stop with all the metaphors for wrestling, for clarity.
If I talk to you about a goal that I have, and you actively stand in the way of that goal but don’t think I know you stand in my way, when you attempt to include the goings on of Tom, Dick, and Harry in Georgia, Canada, and the Bahamas I’ll shut your ass down. I don’t give a damn what those three are doing in those three locations. That does not apply to my situation, question, or circumstances. Now, if I’m after a bit of down time, sure, talk away, but if I ask you about Coca Cola, don’t try to tell me about Cheetohs, Little Debbie Zebra Cakes, and Dairy Queen ice cream. Those three things have almost nothing to do with Coca Cola.
A person is judged on their substance. If that person’s substance is nothing but smoke and mirrors, then that substance on which the person is judged suddenly becomes less substantial. Respect is lost and that substance light person is less likely to be given respect at the previous level. Basically, the level of trust I have for “the Duke” has diminished, significantly.
Don’t be light on substance. Stay on topic. When you have a match, focus on your opponent and their goals rather than trying to distract your opponent with parlor tricks and overload them with nonsense information. That really isn’t worth anyone’s time.
On a side note, I have to say that the situation I was originally writing about (that you have not seen the draft of, by the way) has completely come out in my favor. I was going to spin a yarn about folks and situations that really hasn’t gone the direction I thought, and though I’ve had a speed bump or two, there is literally nothing else that can be thrown at me at this point in time. Only what I’ve been after is what’s left and as soon as I get that, I can get out of “high school” and start working towards getting someplace where people appreciate me (and my efforts).
That is probably the most direct thing I’ll say on this column. Times are tough and people suck. The hero cannot be held down perpetually, especially when the drive of that person outweighs your ability to provide obstacles to prevent them from reaching their goals.
Think on it.